Change is hard. Most people want things to change while they remain the same, and with couples the fear of change can be immobilizing. When a couple comes seeking treatment, I am mindful of this paradox. I am aware that their relationship is both precious and problematic to them. When I see a couple, it feels like there are three entities present; a wife, a husband, and a marriage. My goal is to understand all three deeply and to enable the couple to develop the capacity to do the same.

Safety is essential to successful couples therapy. It is the only type of environment that will allow each partner to reveal themselves to each other fully. My therapeutic goal is to attune to each spouse’s subjectivity, which enables the couple to do the same for each other. I explore how each partner’s complaint has occurred due to the individual’s unique history, allowing each partner’s thwarted wishes and frustrations to be deeply understood.

This promotes personal growth, mutual recognition, and emotional intimacy, which are essential for a healthy and dynamic marriage.

My approach to couples therapy enables couples to heal their wounds in the present and to develop a supportive, sustainable relationship for the future. This process empowers the couple to meet the many challenges and vicissitudes of a long life and marriage. 

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